'WHAT KIND OF A HOME DOES HE COME FROM?'

'WHAT KIND OF A HOME DOES HE COME FROM?'

‘I wonder what kind of a home she comes from’, whenever one messes up royally, people start questioning your parents’ integrity and their parenting skills. Granted, I’ve witnessed some parents terribly ‘mis-preparing’ their kids for life whilst they’re thinking they are loving them, yet it’s very unfair to our parents to be on the receiving end of harsh judgment just because as their children we’ve resorted to wayward behavior. Some of us were raised by upright members of society but turned out to be real bad-asses, it’s not fair to condemn my parents. Many of the guys doing time in prison had parents who went out of their way to raise them in the best way they knew how.

It took me a long time but I’ve learnt and accepted that you cannot mess with free will, people will always do what they wanna do regardless of what they might have promised you or how you’ve taught them. Think of some of the girls also known as ‘village bicycles’, some have the most militant-strict fathers whereby being late by a mere 20minutes from school spells trouble, yet those girls always find a way to squeeze in a shag, many parents think their children are virgins when the truth is, some probably have a higher ‘mileage’ than their parents.  

I have noticed that when a guy is cheating on his women some sisters are quick to gush, ‘His woman must be cold in the bedroom’, I say bullshit! Guy will cheat even if he was getting it all at home. If he has not found it within himself to keep his zip closed there is absolutely nothing his woman could do to keep him on the straight and narrow. I’m one of those people who has always found betrayal unforgivable because there are few worse feelings than knowing you’ve been used or betrayed, but as I stride to my glorious year, 2012, I’m learning to accept it as one of the unfortunate realities of life. I want to get a place where it does not devastate me to know that my girl did ‘something’ with another guy, I want to get to a place where my happiness is not affected by my loved ones’ dodgy ways, as much as I love them, but they are also human so from time to time they will hurt me and that doesn’t mean they love me any less. If mina I keep my end of the deal, it's all that matters.

Uke wambona umuntu ezithandela isifebe engenandaba ukuthi abanye abantu bathini? I envy those kind of people.

Live and let alive, remember to relentlessly chase your dreams again in 2012, just because company X said ‘No’ doesn’t mean your game is whack, no, not all at.

Merry Christmas people and I wish you 2012 full of love.

I’m Msizi y’all.

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