#1 ‘My ex is so brilliant in…’
Just as much as trash-talking your ex isn’t nice putting on a pedestal makes your current guy feels inadequate and this tells him he’s not enough for you. Unless the goal is to crush his male ego refrain from such, at least up until you are certain he’s solidly secure with you.
He knows you’ve dated richer guys before, he knows you’ve been with really intelligent guys, he knows you’ve seen bigger everything, trust me knows this…don’t rub it in.
#2 ‘Can it grow any bigger than that?’
Enough said.
#3 ‘We need to talk’
Unless the idea is to freak him out and activate all his defensive signals, never say this to a man, if you called him in the morning about ‘we need to talk in the evening’ you’ve just messed up his entire day. He’s shitting in his pants wondering what he has done. Or analyzing all the shit he’s been upto and trying to figure out which one are now privy to.
Unless the aim is to give him a heart attack, just talk. No need to say ‘we need to talk’.
#4 ‘I hate my big butt’
Generally, guys love big round butts, especially Zulu guys. Don’t ask me why, I haven’t a clue. So it’s a bit irritating really for him to hear you complaining about the size of those assets, it’s like Patrice Motsepe complaining he has too much money. Revolting!
#5 ‘I hate your friends’
Well he’s a newsflash for you, he loves them. If you really have legitimate concerns about some of his friends that may be up to no good address those concerns without being too harsh or too judgemental.
#6 ‘Is that it? You are done? Really?’
There are two types of men – those who have had a one-minute experience and those who lie about it. If he experiences that, the last thing he needs is being scolded, give him some time maybe twenty minutes and get him excited again. Women must accept that the first round is the man’s round, the rest that follow are yours. Relax.
#7 ‘You are such a loser’
I understand you will be very angry at time at times but never call him a loser, anyone else can call him that and it won’t sting but if it’s the woman he loves, it may as well be the end of the world.
#8 ‘I’ve been promiscuous before but now I’m waiting till marriage’
It’s a noble decision by all accounts, but you know what he’s thinking, ‘She now grows a conscience when it’s MY turn!’
#9 ‘A part of me will always love him (ex)’
I believe a part of us will always love the people we once really love, it’s just that more of us move on to love other people. At least I always assume, even when we hate our exes we hate them because we love them, so it’s not necessary to tell him this, he probably knows this anyway.
#10 ‘Can we just cuddle, please?’
Unless you have an impeccably good and believable reason, give your man what he wants.
#11 ‘Oh, you’ll call? What time?’
The guy just said to you, ‘I’ll call you’ and now you are pressuring him to commit to the exact time? Really?
#12 ‘Why didn’t you call?’
He didn’t want to! Happy now?
#13 ‘Where is this going?’
Is this the part where he must ‘propose’? Think of a more creative way to find out if he has any longterm plans that include you.
#14 ‘I missed my periods’
You should never be in a position where you have to say this.
#15 ‘I can’t live without you’ *in a desperate tone*
Of course you can. It scares men when they sense this desperation.
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